Election Day!

In honor of Election Day, I thought I'd talk politics. No, not who our next president will be, but wedding day politics. As anyone in the midst of planning a wedding knows, there are always logistical issues that crop up. Where will everyone sit, will kids be invited or not—weddings are inherently political, so just take a deep breath and know that every bride deals with these sticky situations. Here's one question I hear a lot:

If you've been in a friend's wedding, do you automatically have to ask her to be in yours?

Here's what I say: Etiquette dictates that you do not have to ask them to be in your wedding. In fact, I didn't want a big bridal party, and after being in countless weddings, I decided to avoid the situation entirely by simply asking only family to be in mine. Regardless of your choice, really good friends know the politics and difficulty involved in planning a wedding; they'll understand if you don't ask them to return the favor.

What issues have you encountered during your own wedding planning, and how did you deal with them?

Comments

[Whitney]

I struggled with this exact problem--in the end we had a pretty large bridal party but if I could do it again, I would have done the family thing.
As for close friends not in the bridal party I passed off important duties to keep everyone involved..which made my life easier!

[Erica]

I had to make a tricky decision regarding my MOH. My 'maids are my four sisters and I wrestled with which one to choose as MOH - M, who is closest to me in age, or K, who is closer to me as a friend and was recently married (thus providing me with great advice!). In the end I chose K, not only because she is 'experienced' (so to speak), but also because I know I can count on her as she lives closer to me. M understood and is not one to be upset by this (none of is girls are). It's going to be a great wedding!

[GC]

we're struggling with the actual day to have our interfaith wedding on. Friday or Sunday--Saturday is out of the question for my family for religious reasons. Sunday is iffy for his--same reason. Friday is awkward for out-of-towners. We've got a great venue but can't settle on a day!

[carrie k]

I also struggled with this, and ultimately decided to have my sister be my MOH and my two nieces as junior bridesmaids. There have been NO complaints from any of my friends, most who are married with multiple children. It's simpler for me, and they can just come and enjoy the day.